Personal Development and Relationship

When I was a bit younger, I have always dreamt of a day I will have my own family and enjoy the benefits attached to becoming a husband. I have watched with keen interest how mum and dad always related and this has triggered a hunger to grow up and get married so I can also enjoy such bliss. Because of this very longing for a family, we engaged in the “daddy and mummy play” with our peers (let me just hold it right here, that play was hmm). Then we grew up and reality dawned on us. We now know better and have found several reasons why getting married is a very bad idea. Today, a good number of our youngsters are afraid of getting married. They run away from it like a plague and will do all it takes to avoid it. Of all the several reasons or excuses they give, here are what I regard as the most important five reasons why most singles hate the idea of getting married. 1.       Sacrifice: Getting married is all about responsibility and making ...

Over the week, there was a trending video on how a popular man of God called out some youths and merged them together. That very video was controversial as so many people used it as an opportunity to either question the authority Of the scriptures or the sanity Of The believers. We now live in a world where unlike apostle Paul who said, You say, "I am allowed to do anything"--but not everything is good for you. You say, "I am allowed to do anything"--but not everything is beneficial. 1 Corinthians 10:30, we believe we have the right to do all things. Authority is not equal to anointing and the two can never be the same. While the leaders Of The Pharisees lord it over them, Christian leaders ought not to do that. Marriage is an institution ordained by God and it was in his plans to make Eve out Of the ribs of Adam and brough her to him. She was created when Adam was fast asleep and when he woke up from the God induced sleep he found her and said this is the bone o...

Okay, I guess you are also as eager as I was. The wedding night activities has been so over hyped that we think of so many things that may likely happen on that day. For our present day generation, the wedding night has already lost its meaning because most people are not anticipating to participate in something for the first time. They have had their wedding night several times before the real one. Am sure many of you are already thinking what I once thought. It was that same thinking that led me to ask some people questions about what they did on their wedding night and I decided to compile the list by choosing the top three. 1. Sleep: The wedding arrangement and events is so hectic that all the newly weds want to do is hit the bed and rest their bones. A lot of them end up sleeping throughout the night. 2. Gist: After the wedding, the bride and the groom will want to sit down and analyse what happened throughout the day. They will talk about how their friends danced, h...

Beware! Not everything is applicable to your relationship. Some of the things we see on screen are nothing but the ideas of a writer who is looking for money. A lot of relationships have crash landed in the forest of perdition and are today nothing to write home about simply because those involved thought they could use other people's ideas to run their relationships. No matter the level of the relationship, be it friendship, flirting or even marriage, there are factors that lead it to an early grave when care is not taken. Find below some habits that can kill your relationships. 1. Lack of understanding Most marriages and relationships fail to stand the test of time because both parties failed to understand each other. In a relationship, love is not always enough as understanding has a greater role to play. Have you ever wondered why you and your parents or sibblings get along so well? Understanding is the key. 2. Lack of trust After understanding, the next big t...

Whenever I see old people celebrate a wedding anniversary, I get activated and all excited because such celebrations are gradually becoming archaic. It is quite a very hard thing to see people celebrate a wedding that is more than 15 years nowadays. Most marriages crash in the very first five years. Marriage occurs in phases; the preamble (1-3 years), the learning and understanding (4-9 years), the reaping of fruits (10 and above). It is disheartening to notice that most marriages now crash in the preamble stage (i.e., the adaptation stage). My parents recently celebrated their 40 th wedding anniversary. Yes, Forty years of love, arguments, and brawls and above all sharing together. Forty solid years of sacrifice, learning and adapting to accommodate each other’s excesses. In all these forty years, the hurt was inevitable, quarrels were no absent but one thing got me surprised, in all these years, there was no sign or thought of divorce. Recently, we hear of people wedding...

Today’s woman has been tricked by adverts, social media, and even the media houses into believing that what defines her beauty is her ability to be a face painter. She has been brainwashed to believe that beauty comes from how well she paints her face and nails in different colors. It is annoying seeing a woman look like a rainbow all because she wants to be addressed as beautiful. Permit me to say that a woman’s dressing is incomplete without a bag housing a tiny little box where face painting tools like the lip stick, eye mascara wand, blush brush, and powder are safely kept and used often. Beauty goes beyond having a pretty face, nice curves at the right place, and even appearance. It is the sum total of how you see yourself. Find below, seven characters that define a woman’s beauty beyond the makeup she wears. 1.       Passion: A woman who is passionate about nothing is just another beautiful lost in the jungle of life. Passion is the compass which...

It is quite funny to realise that  90% of people who go into dating don’t even know why they are into it. A  lot of people cannot give a justifiable reason why they started dating or thought of dating in the first place. Dating is the activity of going out regularly with somebody as a social or romantic partner. Dating is supposed to be the first step in social relationship and the other steps include courtship, engagement and marriage. But unlike we have on paper, dating is now engaged in for several reasons. Here is a list of the most common reasons people give for dating. 1.     1.    It is fun I believe maybe they derive fun in inflicting emotional pains on their partners. It is a source of enjoyment and recreation to those who are engaged in it. It helps them to relax together and to also enjoy each other’s company. I think dating should be more than just deriving fun, it should contain series of events which prepares the participants f...