3 REASONS WHY YOUR MARRIAGE WILL END IN 3 YEARS
We now live in a world where everything is done at a very
fast rate. We grow up fast, learn fast, eat fast food, fall in love fast, get
married fast and also get divorced fast. In our contemporary world, we avoid everything
that comes with too many responsibilities as we would do a plague.
Contrary to what we grew up to see, marriage has gone from
an institution to a contract agreement. You are free to live as soon as the
terms and conditions no longer appeal to you. It is now a death trap for men
and an avenue of abuse for the women. Marriage is now a prison where both
parties are chained together with a tiny little ring for the rest of their
lives.
Every marriage must pass through three stages of growth
before both parties can enjoy it; the adaptation stage, the intermediate stage
and the maturity stage. Although the first stage occurs within the first three
to ten years of marriage, research has shown that most marriage contracts are
terminated here. This is the stage where your body system learns to adapt to
the fact that you are no longer alone, your pocket learns to adapt to spending
for the family and your mind learns to accommodate the other person.
In the second stage, your mind and total starts to
acclimatize to the truths you discovered in the period of adaptation, and you
begin to understand the best way to relate with your partner by accommodating
their strengths and weaknesses. The last stage comes after 30-40 years of
marriage. At this point, nothing can separate you both except death do you
part.
There are several factors that may lead to the termination
of “the marriage contract” in the first three years and these factors have been
discussed below.
1. Lack of Commitment
Maturity is not a function of age but of
the mind. Marriage is for men and women and not for boys and girls. Commitment
is one key ingredient that most marriages lack. If your marriage lacks a commitment
to personal goals, commitment to the emotional, financial and psychological
needs of your partner, commitment to everything that defines your marriage then
it will definitely not exceed ten years.
2. Lack of Trust
Without trust, a marriage is nothing but a
tasteless meal served with the bitterest of all wines on earth. If your marriage
must make it out of the adaptation zone, there is a great need to trust each
other. If you can’t trust him or her during courtship, it is better you let him
or her go. Love is not always enough. A lot of marriages now experience trust
issues because what they share has been built on lies. No matter how sweet a
lie may taste, it cannot stand the bitterness of the truth.
3. Lack of Understanding
It seems nobody is now ready to pay the price
of trying to understand the other person. Always remember that people change.
Marriage is not always a 50/50 case sometimes you just have to take the
available 5% and contribute your 95% so that it can work out.
Marriage is a full time employment. If you are not ready to
pay the price, don’t even think about signing the contract. It is better to
live in peace as a lonely single than to experience a horrible death as a
married individual. Marriage is fun and lovely but not without challenges.
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